As you know, I have written about surviving suicide several times before. It is a very painful subject for me, because my family has experienced it more times than usual, it seems. I have mentioned before that my father, my brother, my ex-brother in-law have all committed suicide. Two weeks ago, another member of our extended family did the same.
According to S.A.V.E “Suicide takes the lives of 30,000 Americans every year.” This is a staggering figure.
Trying to make sense of suicide as an adult is difficult. Trying to explain suicide to your children is impossible. Trying to make them understand why multiple people in your family would do the same is incomprehensible.
You have to make them understand that nothing they could have done differently would have changed things. You have to make them understand that they are not at fault. This is not an easy task. Children often ask why their loved ones left them here if they loved them so much. Wow, it hurts when you hear questions like that.
Also, you have to make sure you understand the warning signs of depression so, that you can get your children help before they head into trouble. Depression and suicide runs in families, like mine, and that in itself is a scary fact.
If you feel you are depressed get help immediately, do not wait. If you know someone that is depressed encourage them to get help. Symptoms of depression and its warning signs can be found here.
Suicide, like I have said before, is a very selfish act. Those that choose this path, do not think about those they leave behind. Nor do they consider the emotional, and financial mess they leave behind. For those that have survived suicide you are left to deal with not only the emotional and financial fallout, but often the social fallout as well.
Suicide still has a stigma attached to it. People do not understand it and cannot until they experience themselves. Even though depression treatment has made huge leaps and bounds over the years, it is still largely an illness not understood.
If suicide has touched your family, my heart goes out to you. It can be a horrible process and the healing can continue for many years. Just remember, time doesn’t heal all wounds, it just makes the pain easier to bear.